The Importance of ‘What do You Say’

What do you say in a moment like this?

When you can’t find the words to tell it like it is.

 It seems as though the television is filled with nothing more than chaos, day in and day out, whether it be police brutality or the protests and riots that are taking place. It’s a lot to take in and I do not blame people for wanting to shut it all out. As prevalent as it is, there are people who believe that we need to talk about it. I cannot say I disagree, but I have noticed how it has negatively affected some of my friends. So, what do you say in a moment like this?

 In 1999, Reba McEntire released a song called ‘What do you Say?’ The focus is on how we are supposed to go about certain topics and explain them, even if it is difficult to do so. The song uses a child who asks his father about an adult store; a daughter, who calls her mom to pick her up from a party, that has been drinking; and the mother who becomes ill and wants to go home. These are all difficult subjects that can put people at a loss for words. These protests are no different as I’ve been at a loss for words myself.

 I have a friend I talk to daily who is autistic and suffers from anxiety. We have discussed the protests and the whole subject at hand, yet I need to be careful with what I say because he gets overstimulated easily. His brain is going every which way to the point he feels like he is no longer in control. So, what do I say? Do we talk about it or not?

 It doesn’t stop there as I’ve noticed friends fighting with one another over this whole ordeal. There is so much information being presented that it seems like a never-ending war. Do I take part and pick a side? What do I say in a moment like this?

I’ve learned that there are some people who are just misinformed about the topic and may not understand. I don’t believe that’s a reason to begin a fight; we should strive to come to an understanding. I’ve been wrong about things many times, so I know sometimes we just need someone to point us in the right direction. This is when Reba reveals to us exactly how to handle these difficult topics:

Sometimes you’ve got to listen to the silence.

And give yourself a little time to think…

Just close your eyes and let your heart lead the way.

 So, listen to your heart and let it lead the way with how you wish to go about this topic. There is absolutely no shame in wanting to take a step back from it all and take a little time to think. This topic is very emotional and can be overwhelming. Never let anyone tell you you’re doing it wrong. When you are able and ready to speak do so. As James 1:19 (ESV) states,

“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”

One comment

  1. Here you go again, another great write on Reba’s song! To include a Bible verse as well, you are into God and listening to others I have to say, their pain especially, amazing! The lyrics, silent prayer, forgiveness and you as a writer and listener have it all, thank you… I intend on sharing your post as a favor to everyone who needs a really great read.

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